|pray for an imperfect mother
||[Apr. 28th, 2006|10:53 am]
LJ Prayer Circle
Please pray for my friend.|
She and her significant other have been taken to jail because of "Injury to a Child, Felony" offense. According to her it is because of living conditions, specifically trash- which she blames on the SO because he wouldnt take it out and she was too tired.
For it to be a possible felony tells me it's much worse than just a little trash. I'm going over there to check it out and retrieve her cats tomorrow night.
We've been warning her for a long time that this would happen- and have offered to help clean, but she wouldnt take the offer- she's been warned by CPS in the past to not let this happen. Apparently it was so much worse this time that they actually took her to jail. Last time it was just a warning ("clean up by x date") back in Texas.
She hadnt let me into her place in several months, always being ready outside the door when I came to get her for whatever reason- even admitting to realizing her place was beyond unsanitary ("It's not the safest place for a kid" using her words).
She's repeating a cycle that her mother started, though in a different way. She's always been rather untidy. It really irks me that she's blaming it on her SO, when she knew darn well it was a problem.
I had to call her mother with the news. Probably the hardest call I've ever made in my life. She started to cry, and I'd never heard her cry. Her mother has gone on mission trips to New Orleans and for Tsunami Relief- and is a pretty tidy woman. This has got to be a big blow for her, and no doubt blames herself. But all of us around my friend are blaming ourselves. I cant help but feel if i'd been more vocal, more demanding, maybe she'd have taken it more seriously. But I gave up- it felt like I was talking to a brick wall capable of only repeating justifications for her actions.
I've shed a lot of tears today, and I worry so much for her two little boys, 2 months old and 18 months old. We all need your prayers.